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Dear Dr. Janice, I'm interested in a man that I have known for some time. He lost his wife just in the last two months. I would like to continue to see him but I am concerned that a sufficient amount of time has not passed since her death. I do not want to have remarks made regarding the time frame. What do you suggest? Anna Dear Anna, It's hard to tell from your question if you've already begun to see this man in a romantic way, as you stated you "would like to continue to see him." I suspect that meant that you've known him socially (like in your neighborhood or in a specific communal or religious activity), but would like to transition your relationship into a romantic one. Of course you want to be sensitive to his situation since he just lost his wife, but I sense that your question is more about what other people will think and say instead.
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I suggest that you find a mutual third party to do some investigation for you -- someone who knows both you and the man. Ask that person if the man you're interested in has talked about or mentioned dating. I've heard many stories about how men who were happily married "get right back on the horse" after losing their wives, as they are used to, and enjoy, being a part of a couple.
I don't think that 2 months is too soon for him to start dating again, but it depends on a multitude of factors -- for example, was his wife sick for a short or long period of time, are there adult children around with very strong attachments (and possible resistence) to Dad finding a lady-friend. But if you start gathering information, you'll know better how to proceed. Good luck!
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