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merrymerry
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Post subject: Sleeping with best friend for a year
 Posted: Dec 11, 2009 - 03:30 PM
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| I need some serious help here. I had been friends with a man for a year before we decided to become friends with benefits. Trouble is, I fell deeper than he did and now he has decided to "date", read sleep with, another woman who, as his best friend, I know is all wrong for him!!! I'm out on my ear and she's got my place in his bed! I alternate between crying my eyes out and being mad as heck at both of them. I really do not want to lose his companionship! We have a great time together AND (get this) work together, so there's no way I can "NOT SEE HIM". Here's my question: How do I get over my heartbreak, but keep our friendship intact? |
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Janice
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Posted: Dec 14, 2009 - 12:10 AM
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I'm not really sure what you want here -- my guess is that you want this man to be interested in you as a friend, as a sexual partner, and a work companion. Or, as you ask, "How do I get over my heartbreak, but keep our friendship intact?"
Well, guess what? It's easier said than done.
If you surf around my website here, you'll see that I am not a big advocate on maintaining platonic relationships with the opposite sex, especially after being physically intimate. That's because some of your emotional energies are still connected, and it's difficult to sever them. As I've said many times before, "sex is like superglue -- it's easy to get stuck, but very difficult to get unstuck."
I suggest you read these articles to help you understand why wanting to maintain a friendship is not in your best emotional and psychological interests.
The Inside & Outside of Male-Female Relationships.
I was quoted in Match.com's "Happen" Magazine But She's My Best Friend!
The best thing you can do for yourself to get over your heartache is to find a new job. The peace of mind will be worth all of the effort. Good luck! |
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