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Thank you Dr. Janice for helping me become engaged!... Everyone who is dating for marriage needs a coach like you...
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 The results to the DoctorLoveCoach.com poll are in! Here's what YOU said in answer to the question, "When choosing a life partner, how important is attention to personal grooming?"
55% said, "Very important. I couldn't live with a slob."
41% said, "It's not as important as other issues."
4% said, "Even if s/he is a slob, you can work it out later."
I get visions of the "Odd Couple," Oscar and Felix, whenever I imagine two people living together with different grooming habits and cleanliness practices. But, they made it work. . . well, in a way. So while 41% of you said that grooming wasn't as important as other issues, 55% of you said that it was. And I think that these results say something very important about the dating scene today, which is this -- singles who want a partner who shares the same attention to grooming and cleanliness are actually willing to say so. It can become a "deal-breaker" for many.
So, all of you "Oscars" out there - beware! Someone might find you rejectable if you constantly leave your clothes on the floor.
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 J, age 42, just sent me this email: "Dear Janice, I wanted to express my sincere gratitude for your coaching over the last five months. Your advice was always excellent and I believe it was very helpful in allowing me to become engaged to the most wonderful girl. The phone coaching was direct, focused, and goal-oriented. Your e-mail advice was very prompt and thorough. I also found you to be genuinely concerned with my success. I hope you will continue to be helpful in assisting singles for many years to come." A little back-story -- J came to meet me in person when he was in NYC. He was a divorced single parent who was serious about re-marrying, and wanted to know how coaching could help him. It was during this same trip that he met H., and he started coaching with me because he "didn't want to make another mistake." It turned out that J. was sure that H. was "the one," but H. was fearful of going forward in the relationship. She had spent many years rejecting suitors, and she gave lots of evidence that she was "commitment phobic." This was around the same time that I had written The Last Word on Commitment Phobia and Commitment--Gain or Loss? However, those articles seemed to focus more on men who feared commitment than women! Nevertheless, J. utilized the coaching to be firm in his belief that their relationship had much future potential , and H. eventually accepted his marriage proposal. He is so happy!
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Posted by: Janice
on Friday, June 30, 2006
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At the end of October, a coaching client, whom I'll call "Angie," got
engaged! Here's a portion of the email she sent me: Dear Janice, I think it's time to express my deep gratitude for coaching me in the past 8 months. . . . [Y]ou have been instrumental not only in helping me get engaged to a wonderful man, but first and foremost in recognizing the characteristics that I was looking for when I started dating him, and on focusing on the right things. You can read Angie's letter by going to the Testimonials page. Some of you might already know "Angie" from her posts on the Message Board entitled "My Boyfriend is a Slob." You can read this thread by clicking here, and know that there was a happy ending. In other news, I was quoted in the November 11, 2005 edition of the New York Jewish Week. The article is entitled "Booking a Voyage Out of Darkness," written by Esther D. Kustanowitz. You can read the article by clicking here. I hope that you not only enjoy reading it, but learn something too about how to (more than) survive the upcoming holiday season.
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 I've always said that one of the best ways to meet other singles is by participating in activities that you enjoy where you have the opportunity to share it with others.Meet Market Adventures is a singles travel company that provides fun single adventure travel, as well as adventurous local and international vacation tours, for active singles who don't have the time to play as hard as they work. Membership is free, with each event charged "pay as you play." They offer a variety of events with the goal of bringing together singles with common interests. With a membership base of over 30,000 singles, Meet Market Adventures is one of the most active
singles sports, social and outdoor companies in North America. Travis, the brains behind Meet Market Adventures, tells me that most of the local activities are based in either Toronto, Canada, or the New York tri-state area. However, participants in their national and international trips come from all over the world. Check out and join this cool resource at Meet Market Adventures, where you can also read some of my articles in the members-only section under "Advice & Trends."
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Results of the poll -- "What do you think about giving feedback after a relationship break-up?" are in!
68% of voters said they thought giving feedback is a good idea, but optional, while 18% thought that each partner should be obligated to give feedback.
7% of voters thought that giving feedback is unnecessary, even redundant, while another 7% said not to ask for or expect feedback, just move on!
I've always contended that since break-ups are inevitable while dating, they give singles opportunities to learn more about themselves and what they're looking for. Feedback from an ex can be a valuable source of information, but for many, it can still be a painful reminder of what went wrong. So I would agree with the majority of voters, that giving feedback is a good idea, but should remain optional.
But if you're still unsure about a break-up and you can't find a mutual party to help gather information on your behalf, then a relationship coach can help you gain a better understanding of what went wrong and how to "get your love right" the next time!
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I got the call a couple of weeks ago to give my opinion on "Why Jen {Jennifer Aniston] Can't Find Love." The article is on page 68 in the October 23rd edition of 
Looking for love doesn't have to be a confusing and tortuous process. And by following the dating strategies I present in my CD "Chemistry, Love & Chocolate," it can taste good too! That's because I reveal the secrets of chocolate's powers to help
explain the science of attraction and the psychology of love, and give singles the right information to manage chemistry while dating.