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Janice encouraged me ask the *difficult* questions to determine if we were on the same page with regard to our life goals & desire for commitment.....Janice continues to help me navigate the ever-increasing number of decisions that must be made about our future.
-- Allison, age 37[Click here to read more]
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Here's how YOU translated this statement, "Let's get together again soon" made by a guy you like after a fun date.
37% said it means, "He likes me & will call soon to get together again."
28% said it means, "He likes me, but still wants to look around."
24% said it means, "He's not sure he likes me, but wants to be polite."
11% said it means, "This is a kiss-off."
I think these results indicate there still is a lot of room for improvement in the way singles communicate their interest in one another. Saying "let's get together again soon" is basically non-committal. If it was clear, then why would only 37% of those polled say that it means something positive? Instead, over 63% thought that doubt was conveyed much more than certainty.
The message that is the "take away" from this poll is this -- speak up and say what you mean to each other! Be clear about your interest and your intentions. When you say "Let's get together again soon," then say when that might be. And if you plan to call, then say when you'll actually call. If you're unsure, then it would be better to say, "I'm not sure where this is going for me. If I decide it's something I want to pursue, then I'll let you know within a week. If not, then take not hearing from me as a 'no.'" Now that's pretty brave, but wouldn't you rather hear that then "let's get together again soon" and think he merely wants to be polite? I think not.
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Posted by: Janice on Wednesday, June 27, 2007 - 06:00 AM
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