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I am really growing in all areas of my life because of your coaching. I'm continuing to utilize the skills I developed during our work & find that I am more confident to entertain new potential relationships. I am indebted to you, Janice. Many blessings!
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Hi Janice, I am divorced but single for almost 20 years. People can't understand why I can't find anyone-- I am educated, have a good job, am financially stable, keep physically fit and have an attractive appearance. I can't figure it out either. The last relationship he came on really strong and then backed off. He had issues but I still tried to force it -- I wanted it to work so much. I think he started seeing someone else and he stopped calling. I was very hurt. He started calling me again but I don't know if I want to be hurt again. He is acting as if we are just starting to date although we have a 2 year history. And why I am still interested in him even though we argued a lot? What is my problem? My job has taken up a lot of time and now that I am over 50 I feel I have just woken up and realized how late in life it is for me. What can I now do to attract men into my life? What about me do I need to do to become more
attractive? I'm afraid I'm doing things that keep me from having a great social life. Can you help? Donna I'm glad, Donna, that you finally "woke up" and realized, not "how late in life it is" for you, but how
"today is the first day of the rest of your life." Going from being "unconscious," where you are awake but not paying attention, to "conscious," where you are clear and aware of everything around you, is a major step that you've already taken toward creating the kind of life you want. Your questions give me the opportunity to tell you about "The Law of Attraction." Basically, we attract others who reflect who
we are and where we're at in our lives. In other words -- like will attract like. The Law of Attraction works best when you know who you are and what you want in your life, and then by living in a way that's consistent with those beliefs. If you don't believe you deserve to have someone in your life who loves and cherishes you, then that is what you will attract. If you can envision the kind of people you want in your life, believe that you deserve it, live and behave in ways that communicates it, then you will attract people who will support you in living that vision. When it comes to dating, the Law of Attraction says that when you are aware of how you present yourself to the world, you will be able to see opportunities to be with the kind of people you want that you may not have seen before.
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You've already succeeded in creating a career, and worked on enhancing your health and looks. Good for you! We know that people typically get results in the areas where they've put in some effort. So in order to attract the kind of men you want to meet, start by describing your vision of your ideal relationship and life. What types of activities will you share - What will you do? Where will you go together? What will you feel like in this ideal relationship? Then list all the qualities and attributes you want your partner, your ideal mate, to have. It's important to be specific so that your list reflects your vision. This process will help you attract the type of man who meets your ideal criteria, and in turn, fulfills your ideal relationship. The next step is to go out into the world and show
your real interest in meeting these men, believing you deserve what you seek. Understanding The Law of Attraction helps to answer the other questions you ask. Why are you still interested in someone who
dropped you and hurt your feelings? Why did you try to "force" a relationship with someone who you knew "had issues?" You ask what you are doing wrong to keep you from "having a great social life."
It starts with your belief system. Believe that you can have what you want rather than settle for what you can get. Be a "chooser." Make the choices to find a partner who fits your vision. Don't settle for less than what you want and what you deserve. When understood and implemented consistently, the Law of Attraction can be a force more powerful than gravity! You will become like a magnet, and the love of your life will find you and want to be with you. But you have to be out in the world, not hiding behind a desk or staying at home watching television alone. Take these steps to live the kind of life you want, and improvements in your social life, and your dating prospects, will follow.
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Posted by: Janice on Tuesday, January 16, 2007 - 03:00 PM
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