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Happy Anniversary! An anti-complacency story
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Welcome to my mind! This is where I share my thoughts, reactions and experiences as your relationship coach.

It's hard to believe that it was just a year ago this month that I launched the Focused Points email newsletter. Wow! The year sure went fast! I started to wonder what originally inspired me to churn out a twice a month newsletter; in other words, what was I thinking?!

Truthfully, I had determined that I wanted and needed to grow professionally. Being a psychologist, especially one in private practice, tends to be a lonely profession. While I had always felt it a privilege to be invited into the private lives of the people I treated, the relationship was (and should be) one-sided. If I didn't seek out relationships with colleagues, I could be working alone for many hours at a time.

Coaching can similarly be a lonely profession since much of the work is provided virtually --

-- over the phone, via email, or on the internet. While I enjoy all of these mediums, I found that I especially like, and need, to be with people in person. So I am grateful to have had many opportunities to speak to live audiences over this past year. It adds a significant dimension to my work, and it feels good to experience the live reactions to the ideas that I present.

Public speaking and publishing a newsletter add dimensions to my life and work that wouldn't exist if I had stayed in my office and only saw people one at a time, spoke to them on the phone, sent email or updated my website. More important, writing a newsletter or a speech keeps me from becoming complacent.

And boy, is it easy to become complacent! But I was willing to gather up the courage to overcome the inertia that causes complacency and set these goals for myself. For most people, change starts with the recognition that you want things to be different, and then making the committment to do what it takes to identify what needs to be done, and to start doing it. That was how this newsletter was born.

Are you single but don't want to be? Maybe you've become complacent -- you've done what you could and have accepted being single. But if you really want a life partner relationship instead, then I contend that accepting your single status is actually by default. I contend that you have become complacent because you haven't challenged yourself to try something else; to overcome your inertia by trying something new! For example, by trying any of my coaching services that are specifically and specially designed to help you attain the kind of life that you really want.

I could have become complacent and believe that I was doing enough to help people achieve their goals, albeit in a limited therapeutic setting. But since you're reading this newsletter now, and might have been for the past year, it's because I had decided that I wanted to be and do more. And you're the beneficiary of these changes!

I think that this qualifies me to be your relationship coach. Don't you?




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