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Over the past couple of months, I had the opportunity to meet 3 of my coaching clients in person. One had heard me give a lecture months earlier, so I wouldn't have remembered meeting her. The other two met me via my website, having been referred there from another site. All three hired me to be their dating and relationship coach knowing that our contact would be exclusively by phone and by email. In essence, we only had "virtual" contact, and for some it was for many months, prior to meeting in person.
I'm convinced that where I live, New York City, is the center of the world. Why? Because it's inevitable that people will have a reason to want to come here. When my client from New Jersey, came here to spend a holiday with a friend, we met at a synagogue. My client from Los Angeles, came to see someone with whom she was having a trans-continental relationship. We arranged a meeting at the Starbucks up the street. Then just last Saturday night, my client from Europe came to meet me at the Starbucks down the street, as he had come to New York on business. With each meeting, I experienced turning a "virtual" relationship into an "actual" one. So I think that with these experiences, I am now qualified, in some minor way, to say that I know what online dating feels like!
The big difference though, in that I'm not "dating" any of my clients. We have a business relationship where I provide a (valuable) service to help them attain the relationship they want.
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But the business relationship and the service that I provide wouldn't be viable if there was no compatibility, and this compatibility was established over the phone and email. And what I enjoyed so much when I met each of them was how easy it felt to add the personal, "actual" dimension into our relationship. We smiled, laughed, talked and I even reminded a couple of them of something I knew about them from our phone conversations. This seemed to help the transition into the "actual" dimension a lot.
I'm going to file away these experiences in my mind so that the next time one of my clients is planning to meet someone they've met over the internet, I'll be able to be even that much more helpf
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Posted by: Janice on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 03:21 AM
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